I’ve said it before – our brain is like an evidence-producing machine! We don’t experience life as it is; we experience life based on what we focus on most and on our beliefs and assumptions about it! And so many people are just f*cking focused on the wrong stuff! (Sorry, no point in me holding back here!) 😬

Imagine this: you're searching “How to find true love again” a few times on YouTube. The algorithm kicks in and starts showing you more and more of those types of videos. Life works the same way. So while you’re sat around talking trash about men but expecting to find a good one, it’s like baking a cake with salt but expecting it to taste sweet!

The Subconscious Saboteur

Let’s get real. I get it – your experiences and past hurts are why you’re here. But while you continue to focus on the negative, you’ll keep finding evidence of it. You won’t find the “good ones,” and if you do, you’ll find a way to see something different or sabotage it anyway. 🤷‍♀️👀

And it’s not really your fault. It’s unconscious. You probably don’t even know you’re doing it. It’s likely from past hurts and unresolved wounds. That’s why I love working with people with relationship trauma. They don’t even realise they’re going around in the same cycles again and again….but there’s huge relief when we work through it!

Recognising the Pattern

Let me ask you this – have you ever dated different people, only to find yourself in the same toxic dynamic? If you’re nodding your head, you’re not alone.

Recognising the pattern is the first step. Your subconscious mind holds onto these beliefs, making you attract the same kind of partners and situations.

Imagine you’re wearing glasses that tint everything with your past experiences.

Everything you see, feel, and experience is coloured by your previous relationships. It’s like trying to enjoy a sunset with smudged sunglasses. Not quite the same, right?

The Recipe for Change

So how do we change the recipe and bake a sweet life? First, we need to clean those glasses. Here’s how:

Acknowledge Your Patterns 🧠 Take a step back and look at your relationship history. What similarities do you see? What beliefs about love and relationships are you holding onto? Write them down.
Shift Your Focus 🌟 Instead of focusing on what went wrong, start focusing on what you want. Visualise and feel into the the kind of relationship you desire. Believe it’s possible and that you deserve it.
Heal Your Past ❤️ This is where the magic happens. Through hypnotherapy and mindset coaching, we can address those unresolved wounds and reprogram your subconscious mind. It’s like a deep clean for your soul.

More Than Just Relationships

And it’s not just in relationships. Many of us leave money on the table because we’re so focused on the lack that we miss opportunities. We’re unhappy because we see life through the lens of “life is so hard.” And then it’s the same the next day, the day after, and the day after that. You get the picture. Until you’re ready to change.

When you’re ready, I know someone who’s just what you need. (Spoiler alert: It’s me! 🤪)

Embrace the New

Imagine waking up one day, feeling genuinely happy and optimistic about your future. Imagine attracting partners who respect and cherish you. Imagine spotting opportunities for abundance and seizing them with confidence. This isn’t a fantasy – it’s entirely possible when you change your focus and heal from within.

Take the Leap

Breaking relationship cycles isn’t easy, but it’s so worth it. You deserve to experience love, joy, and abundance. You deserve to break free from the past and step into a future that excites you. If you’re ready to take that leap, I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

So, are you ready to stop baking cakes with salt? Let’s switch up the recipe and create a life that tastes as sweet as you deserve. Because life is too short to settle for anything less than bliss.

With love and a sprinkle of humor, Caroline 💖