We Could Blame Them… But When We’re Empowered, We Do This Instead
It’s easy to point the finger.
To call them a narcissist.
To label them a manipulator.
To swear you’ll never let someone love bomb you again.
And I get it.
When someone comes on strong, showers you with attention, makes you feel like you’ve finally found the one, only to pull away once you’re hooked, it can feel like a betrayal.
But here’s the harsh truth that might sting a little: The real power lies in looking inward, not just blaming them.
Love bombing, in all its intensity and quick escalation, can feel like the ultimate validation.
The fast affection, the grand gestures, the “I can’t live without you” declarations, these things can leave you feeling seen, wanted, and cherished in a way you crave. But the deeper issue isn’t them—it’s how we’ve learned to interpret love and worth.
The Shift: Empowerment Starts with You
When you’re truly empowered, you stop making the love bomber your problem, and instead, you start asking yourself: Why was I so drawn to this in the first place?
Because the truth is:
Love bombing only works when fast affection feels like proof of your worth.
Love bombing only traps you when you mistake intensity for security.
Love bombing only hurts when deep down, you’re still craving validation more than real connection.
When you constantly seek validation from others, that over-the-top affection feels like your chance to finally “be enough.” You may think to yourself, Finally, someone sees me the way I’ve always wanted to be seen.
But the problem is, that’s not real love—it’s emotional manipulation, no matter how sweet it might seem in the moment.
Why We Fall for Love Bombing
We fall for love bombing because, on some level, we feel unworthy unless someone is giving us all the attention.
We mistake fast affection for love and become attached to the highs of someone else’s approval. But here’s the catch: We’re giving them the power to define our worth.
But what if we could break that cycle?
What if you didn’t need someone to shower you with praise or affection to feel good about yourself?
The key is inner work.
When you do the inner work to truly heal and step into your power, you stop seeing love bombing as a compliment, and instead, you start recognising it for what it is…a red flag.
The Power of Self-Worth: How to Break the Cycle
When you’re solid in your self-worth, something magical happens:
✨ Over-the-top attention from someone will no longer feel like love—it will feel like a red flag.
✨ Slow, steady, genuine connection won’t feel boring—it will feel safe.
✨ You won’t need someone to “choose” you quickly, because you already choose yourself.
When you stop depending on someone else’s affection to validate you, your relationships become healthier, more balanced, and infinitely more fulfilling.
You no longer crave someone to complete you because you know that you are already whole.
When you truly believe in your value, you stop falling for the drama of quick, intense relationships.
You’ll recognise that lasting love doesn’t come from fast, overwhelming gestures, it’s built through mutual respect, trust, and shared growth.
This Is What We Do in "Becoming the One"
This is exactly what we focus on in my program Becoming the One….shifting from external validation to internal power. It’s about healing the parts of yourself that make you susceptible to emotional manipulation and learning how to trust your own worth above all else.
When you shift your perspective and stop chasing the highs of love bombing, you’ll attract a kind of love that’s grounded, nurturing, and deep. You won’t need to be swept off your feet because you’ll already feel stable and confident on your own two feet.
Ready to stop chasing validation and start building a relationship that honours your worth?
Work with me for “BECOMING THE ONE”